Spousal Prayer - A Way to Marital Happiness by Dr. James Keating

Posted by Dennis Chitwood Sat, 17 Aug 2013 13:12:32 GMT

Spousal Prayer - A Way to Marital Happiness by Dr. James Keating

Publication Date: February 20, 2013 Deacon James Keating's newest book, Spousal Prayer: A Way to Marital Happiness affirms that the sharing of hearts is a necessary commitment in both marriage and prayer. If we can learn what the key elements to sharing the heart are and equally what the key elements to receiving the heart of another are, then we will know the greatest of intimacy in both prayer and marriage. The mingling of the love of spouse with and in the love of God is and has always been the foundation for a life of peace, creativity, and vibrancy, not to mention sanctity. In fact, we cannot even understand what marriage is unless we look at how Christ loved His Bride, the Church, till the end (Jn 13:1). For the baptized, Christ has joined His love for the Church to the Sacrament of Marriage and Marriage, to His love for the Church. Each couple is called to allow Jesus to bring them into this great love of His. The couple is not supposed to do all the work of love; they are called to let Jesus gift them with His own spousal love. In other words, couples should let Jesus live His spousal love for the Church over again in their own love for one another. They do this by simply asking Him in prayer to do so and by sharing their needs and desires with Him. Marriage is not a self-help relationship; it is a deep partnership with Christ.


Tips on Loving your spouse

Posted by Dr. John Gresham Fri, 09 Aug 2013 15:29:00 GMT

For all of us husbands:

A Man's Guide to Loving a Woman

Tips include everything from sharing your dessert to taking out the trash to becoming a saint.

For the wives:

A Woman's Guide to Loving a Man

Starts with "help him get to heaven" (remember hearing that on your SPIN retreat?) and one of my favorites "bake for him."

Click on the comment button below this post and let us know, what is your favorite tip from these lists OR what tip would you add to either list?


Please pray

Posted by Dennis Chitwood Wed, 07 Aug 2013 01:04:45 GMT

Please pray for the couples on this weekend retreat (8/9-10). We had a cancellation and would like your prayers for the couple. We would also like you to let couples you know that we have one space open for this weekend. Thanks, Deacon Dennis


Sex Within Marriage

Posted by Dennis Chitwood Mon, 05 Aug 2013 18:34:00 GMT

Received this today and thought it is good to pass it on.

Day 293 - Sex Within Marriage

The Sixth Commandment: You shall not commit adultery.

What significance does the sexual encounter have within marriage?

According to God's will, husband and wife should encounter each other in bodily union so as to be united ever more deeply with one another in love and to allow children to proceed from their love.

In Christianity, the body, pleasure, and erotic joy enjoy a high status: "Christianity ... believes that matter is good, that God Himself once took on a human body, that some kind of body is going to be given to us even in Heaven and is going to be an essential part of our happiness, our beauty and our energy. Christianity has glorified marriage more than any other religion: and nearly all the greatest love poetry in the world has been produced by Christians. If anyone says that sex, in itself, is bad, Christianity contradicts him at once" (C. S. Lewis). Pleasure, of course, is not an end in itself. When the pleasure of a couple becomes self-enclosed and is not open to the new life that could result from it, it no longer corresponds to the nature of love. (YOUCAT question 417)

Dig Deeper: CCC section (2362-2367) and other references here.


New Marriage Website

Posted by Dr. John Gresham Wed, 31 Jul 2013 00:53:00 GMT

From the USCCB, a new website Marriage: Unique for a Reason Here is a prayer for marriage copied from that website:

God our Father, we give you thanks for the gift of marriage: the bond of life and love, and the font of the family.

The love of husband and wife enriches your Church with children, fills the world with a multitude of spiritual fruitfulness and service, and is the sign of the love of your Son, Jesus Christ, for his Church.

The grace of Jesus flowed forth at Cana at the request of the Blessed Mother. May your Son, through the intercession of Mary, pour out upon us a new measure of the Gifts of the Holy Spirit as we join with all people of good will to promote and protect the unique beauty of marriage.

May your Holy Spirit enlighten our society to treasure the heroic love of husband and wife, and guide our leaders to sustain and protect the singular place of mothers and fathers in the lives of their children.

Father, we ask that our prayers be joined to those of the Virgin Mary, that your Word may transform our service so as to safeguard the incomparable splendor of marriage. We ask all these things through Christ our Lord, Amen.

Saints Joachim and Anne, pray for us.


More on Louis and Zelie -- a miracle

Posted by Dr. John Gresham Mon, 15 Jul 2013 16:50:00 GMT

We might have to adopt Louis and Zelie (parents of St Therese) as patron saints for our SPIN retreats. Here is another article on how they are Beacons of Light pointing to marriage as a path to holiness.

That article links to an account of a miracle of healing attributed to their intercession which may move them one step closer to canonization as saints.


When you are not married to a saint

Posted by Dr. John Gresham Fri, 12 Jul 2013 19:53:00 GMT

My last post was about a married couple on their way to canonization as saints. What about the rest of us! We can't always be a saint married to a saint! Well, I often think my wife is a saint for putting up with me --- but NOT all the time! Here is a great little article with some helpful advice for all of us who are still in that school of life, learning how to be saints (and sometimes just learning how to get along with each other) :

When You're not married to a saint


Blessed Louis and Zelie

Posted by Dr. John Gresham Wed, 10 Jul 2013 00:40:00 GMT

Beatified by Pope Benedict XVI in 2008, Louis and Zelie Martin, parents of St Therese the little flower are some great models (and intercessors) for married couples. Their feast day is July 13 so this is a good time to learn something about them. Here are some links:

Life of Louis and Zelie Martin

Life of the Couple

The World is Not Home


Spousal Prayer

Posted by Dr. John Gresham Fri, 05 Jul 2013 19:26:00 GMT

My friend deacon Jim Keating from the Institute for Priestly Formation in Omaha has recently written a short book on Spousal Prayer. This book expresses many of the ideas behind our SPIN retreats and I think couples would enjoy reading this book together. Here is an excerpt about the book:

couples should let Jesus live His spousal love for the Church over again in their own love for one another. They do this by simply asking Him in prayer to do so and by sharing their needs and desires with Him. Marriage is not a self-help relationship; it is a deep partnership with Christ.

For those who are interested, here is the link to purchase a copy on amazon: Spousal Prayer-A Way to Marital Happiness.

P.S. We have 6 couples signed up for the August SPIN retreat -- room for 4 more! Please use the link on the right to print out a brochure and pass it on to someone you know whose marriage would be blessed by this retreat. THANKS!


Now is the time to strengthen marriage

Posted by Dr. John Gresham Thu, 27 Jun 2013 14:50:00 GMT

Our Bishops responded to yesterday's Supreme Court Ruling - Supreme Court Decisions on Marriage: 'Tragic Day for Marriage and our Nation,' State U.S. Bishops One sentence in that statement really jumped out at me:

Now is the time to strengthen marriage, not redefine it.

These SPIN retreats are one resource that the Holy Spirit has inspired to strengthen marriages. All of us who have been on a SPIN retreat should renew our commitment to pray together and open our marriages to more of God's grace. Help your spouse get to heaven!

Please share the good news of SPIN and tell your friends about the retreat coming up this August.


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